Mid-life Speed Dating: 5 Tips to Success
Speed dating is a great way to meet potential dates. But it can feel frustrating and nerve-wracking, especially if you are middle-aged and out of practice. You only have a few minutes to make a great impression. How do you make those minutes count? Here are five tips to take the stress out of mid-life speed dating.
1. Look amazing. You get this one chance to make a great impression. For women: spend time on your hair and makeup. Make sure your outfit is thoughtfully put together . If you need help, ask a friend’s opinion or shop with a personal shopper or image consultant. It may cost extra money now, but will save you a lot of money that you might have spent on clothing that doesn’t suit you. You also might want to get your hair and makeup professionally done. Men: groom, shave, look good. Both sexes: no perfume. Better safe than sorry.
2. Smile. Never underestimate the power of your happy face. There is nothing worse than greeting someone with a sour puss. Happy begets happy.
3. Ask great questions. “What do you do for a living?” doesn’t cut it. I would ask these types of questions: What’s the greatest adventure you have been on? What’s your favorite dessert? What’s a secret skill that you have? What was your favorite toy when you were little? What’s the best gift you ever gave someone? If your house was on fire, what would you grab first? What book are you reading now?
4. Be gracious. Use your manners. Please, thank you, excuse me, patience, listening well; these are all critical in making that first good impression.
5. When you say hello and goodbye, shake the RIGHT way. This is not a job interview. Shake hands differently. As you’re shaking, cover his/her hand with your other hand while looking him/her in the eye and smiling. You establish warmth and connection right away.
Oh, and by the way, I was featured today in an article in Family Goes Strong on speed dating in midlife. I’m tip # 4! The article contains more good tips on speed dating in midlife. Please check it out.