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Are you making any of these five online dating mistakes? Check out this video to learn how to turn them around and find love!
If you’ve been swiping and messaging for months (or years) without much to show for it, it’s not because love isn’t out there for you. It’s usually because a few fixable habits are quietly getting in your way.
I see the same five online dating mistakes over and over with the women I coach, and the good news is that every one of them is completely within your control to change. Here they are, along with what to do instead.
Why do people cheat? In this episode, we discuss the science of betrayal and why even happy couples sometimes cheat.
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What drives people to cheat? Dr. Glenn Hutchinson is a clinical psychologist and behavioral researcher whose upcoming book, Unfaithful Minds: The Science and Psychology of Infidelity (Prometheus, August 18, 2026), uses infidelity as a window into a much bigger question about human behavior.
In this episode:
What people misunderstand about why people cheat
The role of the unconscious mind in infidelity
Why many happy couples cheat
How and why people justify cheating
Early warning signs of possible cheating and what to do about it
Do you have a pattern of over-functioning in your relationships? Do your partners under-function? Let’s break this pattern now!
Debbie came to a session excited and a little unsettled. She had been dating Alan for a few months, and everything about him felt different from what she was used to. He texted back. He made plans. When he said or did something that landed wrong, he apologized and corrected course without being asked twice or getting defensive.
That should have felt like relief. Instead, it felt unfamiliar enough to make her a little nervous.
Debbie’s last long-term relationship was with a man I’ll call Richard. She did most of the emotional heavy lifting in that relationship: she planned, reached out first, smoothed things over, and read his moods so she could adjust hers.
Over time, that became her definition of what it takes to keep a relationship together…until she broke up with him. So when her new boyfriend started initiating dates and planning ahead on his own, part of her was waiting for the other shoe to drop, and another part was uncomfortable with him initiating everything. She was ready to start managing things the way she always had, but she didn’t want to go there.
This is one of the most common places I see clients get stuck. They finally meet someone secure, and their nervous system, trained by an old relationship, doesn’t know what to do with the calm.
Here is what we worked on, and what I want to offer you if you see yourself in Debbie’s story.
Should I stay or should I go? How do you know if you should leave a relationship? We dive deep in this episode of Last First Date Radio.
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Wondering if you should stay or leave a relationship? My podcast guest Francesca Zoia, is a relationship and self-love coach that helps women in long-term relationships feeling confused and stuck in the “should I stay or leave” mental loop, figure out whether they’re in the right relationship.
In this episode:
How to know if you should stay or leave
Why it’s so hard to leave a relationship
How to tell the difference if a relationship needs work or it’s over
How to deal with family and friends who don’t support your decision to stay or leave
How do you rewrite your love story to choose a healthy partner this time around? Spoiler alert: heal your trauma!
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How can you rewrite your love story so you end up in a healthy relationship? Owen Smithyman works with self-aware people who have done significant work on themselves – talk therapy, somatic work, plant medicine, coaching — and still feel something running in the background, making decisions for them or making life difficult. As a Peak States Therapy Practitioner, he helps clients resolve emotional wounds permanently, relate more authentically, and live a more vibrant life.
In this episode:
How past trauma shapes our choices in dating and relationships
The relationship between beliefs and trauma
What are peak states, and how are they relevant in dating?
Have you ever overlooked red flags in dating? In this episode, you’ll discover the subtle red flags you might have missed in the past.
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Which red flags in dating have you missed? Katharina is an Attachment-Based Specialist and an Emotionally Focused Individual therapist with over 25 years of experience helping couples and individuals build stronger, more resilient relationships. A graduate of Columbia University, she is the Founder and Clinical Director of Love Frontier Therapy Group and has dedicated her career to helping people understand the patterns behind conflict, repair emotional disconnection, and create lasting intimacy.
In this episode:
The subtle red flags in dating many people miss
Warning signs couples ignore early on
Deal breakers that might be an opportunity for repair in disguise
Instead of running away from conflict, get curious instead
If you ever dated a people pleaser, you probably know it’s not all rainbows and roses. Here are the top five challenges to look out for.
We tend to think of people pleasers as the easiest ones to love. They say yes to almost everything. They go along with the plan. They never seem to want anything that gets in the way of what you want. That sounds like a dream, right? Wrong!
In real life, loving a people pleaser is one of the most frustrating and confusing dynamics you can find yourself in. I’ve coached so many people who describe the same thing: a partner who is kind, agreeable, generous with compliments, and somehow still leaves them feeling unseen. If that’s your story, I feel you. That’s why I’m sharing the top five challenges of dating a people pleaser, and what to do if you find yourself in a relationship with one.
