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5 Ways to Let Go of Your Need to Control In Dating

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How do you let go of your need to control when you’re dating or in a relationship? Here are my top 5 tips!

Why do we often feel a need to control in dating and relationships? There are a few key reasons: 1. We’re afraid of what will happen if we let go (we’ll lose ourselves, get hurt, be disrespected). 2. We’re attached to an outcome we think is best for us (which closes us off to what’s actually better for us). In this video, you’ll discover why it’s important to let go of needing control and several ways to do it!

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A Midlife Widow’s Search for Love

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Listen to this episode of Last First Date Radio with Debbie Weiss, as she reveals a midlife widow’s search for love.

Debbie Weiss is the author of Available As Is: A Midlife Widow’s Search for Love. A former lawyer, she has essays published in the New York Times’ Modern Love column among other places. She’s proudest of getting an MFA at 56. She lives in Benicia, CA with her second life partner, Randal.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How she began a widow’s search for love after loss
  • What it was like to start dating as a 50 year old widow who hadn’t dated since she was 16
  • The biggest problem with dating over 50
  • How she met her second life partner
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5 Surprising Benefits of Rejection 

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When someone rejects you, it feels terrible at first, but there are also surprising benefits of rejection. Here are my top 5!

What are the benefits of rejection? If you’ve ever felt the sting of someone rejecting you after a first date or at the end of a relationship, it’s hard to see the benefits. In this video, I’m sharing my top five, so you can see rejection as redirection, reflection, and protection!

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How to Recover from a Breakup

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My podcast guest, Tal Yardeni, shares her best tips on how to recover from a breakup. If you’ve ever had a breakup, listen in!

Tal Yardeni is known as the breakup recovery coach. She’s the creator of The Breakup To Badass Formula, which helps women let go of their ex, learn to love themselves more, and get ready for their best relationship. Having gone through and healed from her own difficult breakup, she’s passionate about helping women recover from heartbreak.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why self love as we know it is BS, and why true self love is crucial to healing from heartbreak
  • What Rom Coms have taught us about our self worth, and how to break the cycle of placing your worth in relationships
  • The #1 thing that keeps you from moving on, and what you can do about it
  • Why no contact is absolutely necessary to moving on
  • Why you should put dating on hold while you heal from a breakup and when is it okay to get back out there again.
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Finding Hope When Dating Gets You Down

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If you struggle with finding hope when dating feels like an endless loop of disappointment, I’ve got you covered!

After a breakup or a string of bad dates (or no dates at all), dating can get you down. Finding hope can feel almost impossible at times. Here are my best tips for staying optimistic on your journey to finding someone special who brings a smile to your face and adds value to your life.

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How to Overcome Dating Despair

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Dating despair is common, especially if you’ve been dating for a while without success. In this video, I share 5 helpful tips.

If you’ve ever experienced dating despair, you know how devastating it can feel. Will you ever meet your match? Why do the people you don’t like want to date you, and the people you do like don’t? Dating can be exhausting, and it can adversely affect your self-worth. In this video, you’ll learn what to do about dating despair so you can restore hope.

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Dating Do’s and Don’ts From a Single Divorced Dad

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As a divorced dad of two adult daughters, podcast host Jeff Kimes is here to share the good, the bad, and the ugly about the dating scene!

Jeff Kimes is a single divorced dad of two college-age girls. He’s in his 50s and dating in Denver, Colorado. Jeff is the host of the podcast Dating Daze, where he and his guests talk about sex, love, breakups, divorce, and everything related to dating.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What is dating in Denver like for post-divorce midlife singles? 
  • What are some dating dos and don’ts for divorced single dads?
  • Are dating apps a good way for single dads over 40 to meet their match?
  • What are some tips to make dating in midlife more successful?
  • How long should a woman wait to sleep with someone?
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