Would You Pay $5,000 to Date Someone Who Looks Like Your Ex?

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date someone who looks like your exAccording to an article in Time.com, Beginning in June of 2016, for a mere $5,000, you can date someone who looks like your ex. You know that guy who broke your heart, the one you’re trying to forget? You can date someone who reminds you of him. Every day for the rest of your life, you can wake up to the face that reminds you of the man who cheated on you, the one who said he just wasn’t into you. Sounds like a dream, huh? Apparently, one of the top online dating sites thinks so. This is a special concierge service offered by Match.com and a matchmaking company called Three Day Rule. Talia Goldstein, founder of Three Day Rule, created a facial recognition dating service for Match. The premise is that we are usually attracted to the same “type” over and over again, so why not plug that type into a computer and spit out all men who look like your ex? Instant chemistry, right? I beg to differ…

Would You Even Date Someone Who Looks Like Your Ex?

I get it. We are hard-wired to be attracted to certain types. Maybe your exes all look like your father or mother. Or, like Taylor Swift, you are attracted to men with heart-shaped faces (image courtesy of Three Day Rule).

Here’s what bothers me about this service: it’s based on looks alone. Sure, the company says that they will thoroughly vet every match. They’ll even go on a pre-date with him to be sure the guy is not a creeper. But matches are made on much more than looks and a good resumé. And chemistry is way overrated. If you’re basing your attraction on butterflies and a Hollywood fantasy, you’ll continue to have a long list of exes. Especially when you’re dating after 50. A release of love hormones is not an indicator of compatibility. You must balance your heart and your head if you want to forge a lasting loving relationship.

Online dating expert, Julie Spira, agrees that dating your ex’s lookalike is probably not the best idea. “I’m always encouraging [daters] to jump out of their comfort zone,” says Julie. I agree. Your “type” has kept you single thus far. Why would you keep on dating him?

And here’s another tip: if you’re still pining for your ex, it’s time to take a break from dating. Ms. Spira agrees. If you’re not over your last breakup, you won’t be open to a new healthy relationship. You’ll compare every date to your ex. Will he measure up? Hard to tell if he resembles him so closely.

What do you think of Match.com’s new service? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

(Image courtesy of Three Date Rule)


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