Throw Your Dating Rules Out the Window!

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I don’t believe in dating rules. They keep us from figuring out what’s right for US in dating. Because relationships are not a one-size-fits-all.

Recently, someone in my private Facebook group, Your Last First Date, posted this graphic image: 10 Dating Commandments 2020. I was happy to see so many women in the group did not agree with these dating rules.

Instead of dating rules, I suggest incorporating dating principles. Here are mine…

Last First Date Dating Principles


1. Work on your stuff so you don’t project fears and past relationship issues on the new guys you meet.
2. Cast a wide net: be as open as you can about the things that don’t matter and as narrow as possible on the things that do.
3. Learn to communicate clearly and kindly.
4. Know your standards, and set clear boundaries to protect what matters from the start.
5. Don’t try to fix men. What you see is what you get.
6. Walk away from men who don’t treat you with kindness and respect.
7. Don’t give up hope. Believe he’s out there waiting for you, and you will find him.
8. Live your best life and be grateful for what you already have.
9. Forgive those who have hurt you so you can move on.
10. Have fun and laugh as much as you can.

Watch the video for more detail on why you should throw out those dating rules.


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Navigating the Challenges of Remarriage

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Therapist, Terry Gaspard, speaks about navigating the many challenges of remarriage. If you’re thinking about marrying again, listen to this episode!

Terry Gaspard, LICSW, licensed therapist and author, joined me on Last First Date Radio to speak about the challenges of remarriage. She’s a contributor to The Good Men Project, The Gottman Institute Blog, DivorcedMoms.com, Huffington Post, Patheos.com, and marriage.com. Follow Terry on Twitter, Facebook, and her website movingpastdivorce.com. Her forthcoming book, The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around was published by Sounds True in February 2020.

Check out the show notes below for EP 390: Successful Remarriage Tips with Therapist and Author, Terry Gaspard.

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How to Date in the Age of Trump

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My podcast guest, @JulieSpira, shares great tips for how to date in the age of Trump. This is crucial in our politically polarized climate.

My podcast guest, Julie Spira, spoke about our polarized political climate and how challenging it is to date in the age of Trump. She’s America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker, and has been coaching singles on finding love online for 25 years. She’s the author of the bestseller, “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online,” and the upcoming release, “Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships.”

Listen to/download Episode 386: Julie Spira – How to Date in the Age of Trump

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A Stand-Up Comic Dishes on Dating in Midlife

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Gail Forrest is a stand-up comic who knows what it’s like to date in midlife. Listen to this episode to hear the humor in dating at this stage in life.

Author, stand-up comic (*Second City), entrepreneur, humorist, dating expert, and blogger Gail Forrest knows how to make you laugh – at her, at yourself, at others, and especially at her sharp, provocative and memorable declarations (and videos) about online dating after fifty. She joined me on Last First Date Radio to talk about the humor that can be found when dating in midlife. 

Check out highlights below for EP 383: A Stand-Up Comic Dishes on Dating in Midlife.

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