[Podcast episode] How to Date For Marriage

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Rabbi Manis Friedman shares his thoughts on how to date for marriage. You’ll hear about intimacy, sex, and why free love has made us more lonely than ever.

Rabbi Manis Friedman spoke with me on Last First Date Radio about how to date for marriage. While his perspective is conservative, and we don’t always agree, I think you’ll find this episode to be thought-provoking.

Rabbi Friedman is a world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher. He uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Rabbi Friedman started an organization called “It’s Good To Know” which reaches thousands of people every month through his online classes and events.

His first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? published by Harper San Francisco in 1990, is widely praised and is currently in its eighth printing.

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Throw Your Dating Rules Out the Window!

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I don’t believe in dating rules. They keep us from figuring out what’s right for US in dating. Because relationships are not a one-size-fits-all.

Recently, someone in my private Facebook group, Your Last First Date, posted this graphic image: 10 Dating Commandments 2020. I was happy to see so many women in the group did not agree with these dating rules.

Instead of dating rules, I suggest incorporating dating principles. Here are mine…

Last First Date Dating Principles


1. Work on your stuff so you don’t project fears and past relationship issues on the new guys you meet.
2. Cast a wide net: be as open as you can about the things that don’t matter and as narrow as possible on the things that do.
3. Learn to communicate clearly and kindly.
4. Know your standards, and set clear boundaries to protect what matters from the start.
5. Don’t try to fix men. What you see is what you get.
6. Walk away from men who don’t treat you with kindness and respect.
7. Don’t give up hope. Believe he’s out there waiting for you, and you will find him.
8. Live your best life and be grateful for what you already have.
9. Forgive those who have hurt you so you can move on.
10. Have fun and laugh as much as you can.

Watch the video for more detail on why you should throw out those dating rules.


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How to De-escalate Arguments and Manage Triggers

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What if you could learn to manage triggers and create healthier relationships? Paige and Don Marrs show you how to argue right!

Paige and Don Marrs returned to Last First Date Radio to talk about how to de-escalate arguments and manage triggers. They have been happily married for over 30 years and have worked together since the day they joined their lives. They co-authored two how-to memoirs, both of which teach through story. Executive in Passage: When Life Lets You Know It’s Time to Change, Let that Knowing Lead You, chronicles Don’s passionate struggle to leave behind the ethical conflicts in his career in advertising and find work that would be truly meaningful for him.

Their second book, Grabbing Lightning: The Messy Quest for an Extraordinary Love, reveals their “messy,” intimate journey to a love greater than either of them knew to reach for. Paige and Don have offered their relationship program, The Love Conversation®, for more than a decade, helping couples and singles resolve their challenges and experience the love they yearn for instead.

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Fear of Abandonment In Dating

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Jami’s fear of abandonment is keeping her single. In this live coaching session on Last First Date Radio, I share tools to help Jami finally find love.

Do you have fear of abandonment? If you do, you’re not alone. My podcast guest, Jami, volunteered to be coached live on the show this week. She’s 50 years old, divorced five years, and she’s struggling with how to find love after her divorce. Her only relationship post-divorce lasted six months, and it wasn’t fulfilling. She wants to know if she’s emotionally unavailable. During our live session on Last First Date Radio, she revealed where her fear of abandonment comes from, and how that fear has shielded her from the love she’s seeking.

Listen as I coach her live on air to help her get unstuck and finally attract and create the love she wants.

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