I Don’t Want to Live Alone Forever

 broken heartDear Sandy, 

I am 34 and a mom of a 6 year-old daughter. I have been separated 3 1/2 years and divorced 8 months now. My ex has moved on and has already had another child.

I have dated the same 3 guys (2 from my previous life as a teen) since being separated, and I now feel like I am losing it. I feel like there is a revolving door on these relationships – we stop dating for the same reason every time, and yet, I go back to try to date them again because of my fear of failing at finding someone new. I have an extreme fear of trying again. I’m at the point where I don’t know what’s worse: the feeling of dealing with the same knuckleheads or the fear of starting over…it seems either option leads to failure for me.

I definitely don’t want to be alone and feel like I’m a good person (pretty, hard-working, intelligent, funny, and a good mom), but I am starting to lose sleep at night. I don’t want to live alone forever.  

I know you have a million clients and programs to handle, but I just need a little help to make it. I am seeing a counselor in the hopes of regaining my sanity for myself and my daughter. Please help me in any way you can. 

Thank you in advance,


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