What NOT to Say When Your Feelings Are Hurt


feelings are hurtDon’t you wish you always knew what to say when your feelings are hurt? It’s also important to know what NOT to say…

When my feeling are hurt, I know how to effectively communicate with grace and compassion. But, that wasn’t always the case. In the past, when I felt hurt or misunderstood, I’d have two basic modes of communication: shut down or get defensive. Neither is very effective. I had no idea how to express my hurt feelings without turning a man off.

I had the same issue in my non-romantic relationships. Whether it was a family member, a friend, or my boss who wrongly accusing me of something, I would be at a loss for the right words to say. I’d be flooded with emotion and just freeze.

I knew what I didn’t want to do—yell or slink away in silence. What I yearned for was to remain connected and empowered, feel heard, and be open for feedback. After studying communication skills for over a decade, I’ve finally learned how to effectively express hurt feelings, especially when to text and when to talk in person. I’ve also learned what NOT to say when my feelings are hurt.

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