You have a choice: express your needs to your love partner or listen to nails scratching on a chalkboard? To many people, the latter seems more appealing. It doesn’t have to feel so painful, scary, or risky to express the things that are most important to you in your relationships. When a need has been stepped on, it’s crucial to be able to talk about it. But it’s something that most people either avoid or do in a way that’s disconnecting. Compassionate communication is a skill I’ve been studying for almost ten years. Well, actually, it’s something I’ve worked on my entire adult life. But in the past ten years, I’ve learned how to courageously express my needs while staying open and connected. Following are 8 tips to help you learn to express your needs without feeling needy.