Warning: You May Be Dismissing Quality Men

Searching for quality men? Here are three ways to discover if he is a player, a boring nice guy or a hidden gem; aka a quality man.

Today’s post is written by JamesD’Souza, a happily married nice guy who finally figured out how to be noticed and loved for the quality man he always was.

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Women spend a lot of time complaining about men. Even the tone and title of blog posts seem to reflect a general frustration women have with men:

“Five Devastating Reasons Quality Men Disappear”

“Why Are Guys Head Over Heels for Me at First But Lose Interest After a Few Weeks?”

“How Do I Stop Wasting Time With Men Who Aren’t Good for Me?”

“What to Do When You’re Dating a Guy Who’s Afraid of Commitment?”

 

Is every woman who’s looking to meet a great guy only meeting men who behave like this? I know we’re not all bad because my friends and I are not.

From what I’ve seen on many dating sites for women, men are commitment-phobic players. I know those headlines are written to entice readers, and they wouldn’t be attractive if there wasn’t an element of truth. But, what if there’s another view? Could it be that the more extreme behaviour of some men ruins it for the quality men?

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A Tale of My Tinder Dates in Israel

On my recent three-week trip to Israel, I went on Tinder. I was curious. What is dating like here? Here’s the tale of my Tinder Dates in Israel!

I spent the last three weeks in Israel visiting my oldest daughter and her family. They moved to Israel last August, and I’m here to help my daughter take care of her delicious newborn and toddler girls. On my second day here, I decided to log into Tinder and see what dating in Israel is like. This is a tale of my Tinder dates in Israel, and how they compare and contrast with Tinder dating in New York/Connecticut back home.

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5 Warning Signs that Your “Nice Guy” Is Actually a Jerk

jerkToday’s guest post is by Sarah Williams, a lifestyle writer specializing in dating advice . Her mission is to help busy men of all ages to find true fulfillment in social life. You can connect with Sarah on her blog.

Women often behave irrationally when it comes to dating and emotions. I’m a prime example of this. I would never admit that I like to date jerks, but somehow I keep ending up with them. Perhaps I subconsciously eliminate the good guys and feel attracted only to the biggest jerks.

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How Much Is Your Relationship Costing You?

how much is your relationship costing you(This article was first published in Better After 50 September 4th.) My client *Annie has been seeing someone for about six months. If you’re imagining a hot romance, think again. The person she sees once a week is a warm, loving therapist. *Lisa is helping Annie get over an abusive ex-boyfriend.

Well, boyfriend is a bit of a stretch. Annie may have been in love with *Joe, but Mr. Hot and Cold was not in love with her. He sent her sexy texts and slept with her when she came to his place, but hardly ever made the 40-minute trek to see her. He bought himself $600 suits, but refused to pay for coffee or a movie. And Annie kept coming back for more.

They dated on and off for over a year. To complicate matters, they were co-workers. What began as a flirtation on an online dating site ended up causing Annie considerable emotional damage. Two years later, she’s still ruminating about why he broke her heart. She spends her evenings stalking his online dating profile. Her anxiety has led to a dependency on sleep medications.

How much is your relationship costing you?

When a person needs to heal from trauma from their past or any form of psychological dysfunction such as addiction, I recommend that they see a therapist, often while continuing to coach with me. Annie’s obsession with her ex is a form of addiction. That, combined with the negative experiences she’s had with most men in her life (including her father), are holding her back from opening her heart to a healthy loving man, someone who will treat her with the respect she deserves.

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Dating Advice for Men Over 40

dating advice for menNaturally outgoing and persuasive, twins Jonathan and David Bennet began to think about the power of popularity when they noticed that being popular with their students made them more successful teachers. This spurred their devotion to  years of research studying the “science” of attraction. They eventually started creating practical tips based on their studies. They have partnered with matchmakers and dating coaches in Columbus, Ohio, helping men (and women) become more confident and attractive through consulting, public speaking, and classes. It was a pleasure to speak with David Bennet on Last First Date Radio and listen to his dating advice for men over 40. Following are highlights of our loosely transcribed conversation.

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