How Patriarchy Stress Disorder Sabotages Women’s Love Lives

Patriarchy Stress Disorder

What’s Patriarchy Stress Disorder, and how might it be affecting your love life? Dr. Valerie Baker shares her brilliant insights in this interview!

My podcast guest, psychologist, author, and speaker, Dr. Valerie Baker pioneers healing Patriarchy Stress Disorder™ (PSD)–the trauma of 1000s of years of oppression imprinted in women’s DNA. She calls PSD the invisible inner prison that keeps women from experiencing their ultimate success and happiness. In over 20,000 hours of her work as a therapist and coach to successful women, Dr. Valerie has guided thousands of women’s PSD jailbreaks. She helps high-achieving women who’re sick and tired of sacrificing their health, sanity, and love lives to heal PSD so they can finally marry their professional and personal success and happiness–and fully enjoy it.

Check out highlights below for episode #324: How Patriarchy Stress Disorder Sabotages Women’s Love Lives. 

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Are You Settling In Your Relationship?

are you settling in your relationshipsPicture this. You walk into a conference room and are told to find a seat. You choose a seat in the third row, and on that seat is a yellow spiral-bound notebook. You look around at the other seats. Some have blue notebooks, some red and some yellow. You think to yourself, “I hate yellow. I wish I had a blue notebook.”

The conference begins and the facilitator says, “If you don’t like the color of your notebook, trade with someone and get the one you want. You deserve to have everything in your life exactly the way you want it.”

How often do you feel that you don’t really get to choose exactly what you want, that you are settling in your relationships? What would your life be like if you had the mindset of deserving to have everything in your life exactly the way you want it?

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Confessions of a Middle Aged Babe Magnet

confessions of a middle aged babe magnetChad Stone got divorced in mid-life and bravely entered the world of dating in the 21st century. He learned how to date again and used every available option– online dating, speed dating, set-ups by friends, and meeting women in the “real world.” His experiences became a humorous memoir/self help book called Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet. Following are loosely transcribed excerpts from my radio interview with Chad

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Don’t Date Men With Potential (

datingadvice.comWhen I first began dating after my divorce, I met “John” on an online dating site. We had a great first phone conversation, discovering we shared many common interests and a similar outlook on life.

He set up our first date for two weeks away. I couldn’t wait!

I got a bad feeling in my gut when John didn’t reply to my email (claimed to have never received it) and didn’t call when he said he would (another excuse). I was concerned he might forget our date.

I emailed early in the week to see if we were still on. John said he couldn’t make it, as he was out of town. He then apologized that he was now too busy with work and couldn’t focus on dating anyone.

I was angry. I felt duped. I had finally met a guy who seemed to have so much potential. Over the next few months, I often thought of contacting him. Am I glad I didn’t! (Read the rest of this article here

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I’d Rather Be Single Than Settle!

I'd rather be single than settleIf you’ve ever said, “I’d rather be single than settle”, you must check out my interview with David Steele, CEO of the Relationship Coaching Institute.

Yesterday’s Last First Date radio show was off the chain (as Guy Fieri would say). I interviewed David Steele and his lovely wife, Darlene about not settling in a relationship. David is a California-based Marriage and Family Therapist who  founded the Relationship Coaching Institute, the first and largest international relationship coach training organization. He’s the author of the ground-breaking book for singles Conscious Dating- Finding the love of your life and the life that you love . Be sure to visit his website at for free access to his audio program “Using Conscious Dating to Find Your Soulmate.” David and his wife Darlene are a great example of what happens when you make up your mind not to settle. Their love is palpable! I’ve loosely transcribed the highlights of the show for you. To listen to the whole inspiring show, click here.

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