How to Find Your Voice and Speak Up

My radio guest, Tammy Lee Schumacher’s marriage fell apart, because she didn’t know how to take care of her needs and speak up. In this episode, learn how to find your voice and save your relationships.

My radio guest, Tammy Lee Schumacher, was a teenage mother and bride. She had five children and 11 grandchildren, and her life looked rosy from the outside. But no one could guess that her 37-year marriage was on the verge of destruction. She triumphed over countless challenges from depression to lack of self-esteem, and pulled herself out of a gray cloud –physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually to become who she is today. She separated and reconnected with her husband since 2014. Schumacher is an optimist, author, healer, speaker, mentor, teacher and workshop facilitator inspiring and empowering women.

Show notes below for episode #299: How to Find Your Voice and Speak Up to Save Your Relationships.

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She’s Addicted to an Abusive Boyfriend

self respect in relationshipsDear Sandy,

I feel I am with a narcissist. I really need some guidance. I’m divorced and I have a young son. I reconnected with my boyfriend who was a friend of mine over 25 years ago in high school. He ended up relocating from Texas to Tennessee to live with me. Big mistake number one. I had been separated for 2 years and divorced 8 months when he came here. According to my boyfriend, my ex may never be a part of our life. He also says I can have no contact with anybody in my ex’s family. He has made me close my Facebook account and change my phone number so they can’t reach me. Only my son’s grandparents can stay involved, and they can only call the house phone so he knows the conversation. Once my ex called my cell and I took the call. For month’s he couldn’t be emotionally engaged in the relationship like I wanted because I let him down. Most recently he has decided that I’m sneaking around so he is monitoring my phone. He has deleted contacts. Everything I do must be run past him.

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Keeping Secrets in Marriage

keeping secrets in marriageDear Sandy,

My daughter’s wedding is only 3 weeks away, and I am in severe emotional agony over a situation that happened 28 years ago.  When I was very young, a boy who lived in my neighborhood and I were dating secretly, because our parents didn’t approve.  Eventually, we decided to elope without our parents consent.  About one year into the marriage, we realized that we made a mistake, and both sets of parents arranged for us to get divorced quickly. 

Soon after, I met my husband and we’ve been living a beautiful life together with our children. I feel bad that I have been keeping secrets in my marriage ~ I never told him of my brief marriage. I had no real reason to, as throughout all these years I had no contact with my ex-husband ~ until now.  My daughter is engaged to his son!  When the father of the boy walked into our house, it was a complete shock to me.

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Rihanna is ‘Crazy in Love’ ~ Can an Abuser Change?

can an abuser change?Almost four years after leaving Chris Brown as a severely battered woman, Rihanna is back with Chris and ‘Crazy in Love’. Emphasis on crazy? Or is this really love? Brown is still on probation. “I decided it was more important for me to be happy. I wasn’t going to let anybody’s opinion get in the way of that. Even if it’s a mistake, it’s my mistake,” she told Rolling Stone. “After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I’d rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it.”

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