When I first heard about Lori Gottlieb’s New York Times bestselling book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, I was offended. At first glance, the book seemed to be asking women and men to settle in a relationship, to give up what they truly want and need in a mate. Doesn’t that set you up for failure? Should you really give up on your dream of meeting and marrying your true love? That’s not at all what Lori Gottlieb is talking about.