The Challenges of Dating After Divorce

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Dating after divorce can be challenging, especially if you have kids. Listen to this episode of Last First Date Radio.

Dawn Dais is the author of the The Shit No One Tells You… series, The Non Runner’s Marathon Guide for Women, and more. Dawn’s most recent book The Shit No One Tells You About Divorce takes readers along on her bumpy, meandering, and often absurd journey through the destruction of a life exploded by divorce as she tries to figure out what happened… and what happens next.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How being a parent and dating after divorce can be challenging
  • The challenges of dating as a lesbian on the apps
  • A wonderful mindset shift so you can enjoy dating

EP 538: Dawn Dais – The Challenges of Dating After Divorce

How does being a parent affect how and who you date?

I have fifty percent custody, so I have fifty percent of my time to do what I want, including dating. The complication with kids is you have to schedule stuff, and what happens when you want to introduce a partner to your kids. It might be difficult if the kids don’t get along with your new partner.

You had settled down with the first woman you dated, then 12 years later started dating women for the first time at age 42. Was there a learning curve?

I dated men throughout my twenties and came out of the closet at age thirty. I partnered with the first woman I dated, which I don’t recommend. We were together for twelve years and had two kids. We split up during the pandemic in 2020. I started dating women on the apps for the first time. I found it efficient. There was a lot of texting and FaceTime dates. It was a weird time to socialize and date again. At least the pandemic has slowed down some.

What have been your experiences with dating apps?

I wanted to do a coffee table book of the most ridiculous dating profiles! Hide your crazy for a little bit 🙂 A lot of lesbians have pet birds. I had an album on my phone of women with birds. A lot of people are ethically non-monogamous, or they’re looking to find a third. 

There were a lot of men on the lesbian app ‘Her’. But in spite of the craziness, I learned a lot about people from their photos and what they wrote about themselves.

People could either message well or not. I would ask a question and give people three chances to engage with me. If they don’t ask me anything, I close the match.

Have you had any relationships through the apps?

One or two times, I met women where we had a mutual connection. 

What are some of the key things you learned about dating after divorce?

So much of dating is about timing. When I first got divorced, I wasn’t in the right headspace for a relationship. I like to meet people who are in therapy or have been and are growing and take responsibility for their part. It’s exciting to meet other formed humans at this stage of life. 

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date after divorce?

Get it out of your head that it might be your last first date. Don’t put pressure on the dates you have right after your divorce. Go have fun and let dating be fun. Meet new people, make out with a stranger. Get therapy. And stop trying to force it.

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