The Dating Olympics
Have you been watching the Olympics? I must admit that I’m not finding this year’s Olympics as compelling as in the past, but there is still something exciting about watching world-class athletes competing for the gold. My favorite thing is watching the athletes’ faces as they are about to begin a race, a dive, or a gymnastics competition. That look of utter and complete concentration is fascinating to me. How, you may ask, does the Olympics relate to dating? Glad you asked…
I was just watching Oprah’s Next Chapter, where she was interviewing superstar Olympic athletes. In her interview with Carl Lewis, the track and field champion who won 10 Olympic medals, 9 of them gold, and 10 World Championship medals, the topic of his arrogance came up.
Oprah asked him what he thought of comments critics made about him being full of himself.
He answered that he is confident and full of himself and proud of it. That’s what makes him a great athlete. His parents raised him to expect excellence. And that’s what he has achieved throughout his life.
We are living in a world that is largely celebrating mediocrity. We aim low.
I think the same is true in dating. I know that in my twenties, I certainly lowered my expectations. By the time I got married, I had given up on what I thought would be the ideal match for me. I didn’t think it existed.
So I compromised on important things.
Since my divorce five years ago, I have learned to aim high, to expect excellence in all areas of my life. It’s one of the main areas that I focus on in coaching my clients as well.
Of course, you need to be what you want to attract. Carl Lewis didn’t sit back on his lazy butt and expect excellence. He worked really hard to attain his world class status. And he has a right to be proud.
So, if you want to aim high in the Olympics of dating, follow these simple steps:
1. Be your best. Always work at upping the ante. You can always do better in the world. Make sure you’re on a forward trajectory at all times. Give to others. Be grateful. And be and do your best.
2. Practice. Thinking about self-improvement will not get you into action. Practice what you want to achieve, don’t just think about it.
3. Rinse and repeat. Keep up your game. Your excellent match is out there. Even when it feels like there are no good men, it’s simply not true. You just haven’t found him yet. Keep on being the best version of you, and your ideal mate will come into your life.
Don’t settle for mediocre when excellent is possible. Go for the gold in all areas of your life, especially in your search for the man of your dreams.
Dream big and great things will come to you.