The Secrets to Living a Fantastic Life

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Want to know the secrets to living a fantastic life? My podcasts guest have lived through the unthinkable, and they’ve written a book that will inspire you to live your best life.

Dr. Allen Lycka is one of the leading cosmetic dermatologists in the world. In 2003, he was diagnosed with ALS and given six months to live. After fighting the diagnosis, he is here today as a result of his courage and determination. Dr. Lycka used his experience to co-author the book The Secrets of Living A Fantastic Life with Harriet Tinka, and he speaks to groups around the world about transforming lives.

Harriet Tinka was an international model who was attacked and left for dead by a stalker. Told she would never walk again, she is known by her students as a “Powerhouse Role Model” who makes being genuine the most powerful thing of all. She is an invigorating transformational speaker, passionate life coach, blogger, Chartered Professional Accountant, Football Official, and an ultra-marathon runner. She is the founder and CEO of the award-winning Social Enterprise. She describes her life as moving from tragic to magic.

The Secrets to Living a Fantastic Life

Allen, how did it feel when the doctor said, “You have six months to live so you better get your affairs in order!”

Those are some of the cruelest words in the world. I asked the doctor to prove it. I was ready to fight. You go through the process of anger, denial, shock, etc. They all happened at once for me. I didn’t accept the diagnosis, because you fall back to what you’re made of. I have always been a fighter. I knew in my heart that I didn’t have ALS. I learned through the internet that there were other diseases that were similar to ALS. It turned out I had chronic Limes disease. I started treatment and healed.

Harriet, what was your path of adversity to transforming your life?

I’m a domestic violence survivor. I was an international model, who became the victim of a stalker. I had gone back to university, and I met a student whose attraction to me that was a psychological trap that turned deadly. I was young and naive and didn’t know the signs of abuse. I confused his abuse for love. He started stalking me, and I got a restraining order. One evening I was walking home, and he attacked me in the elevator. He yelled at me for the restraining order, and he told me to call my parents and say goodbye. I said, “No”, and he wasn’t used to standing up to him. He stabbed me, and I blacked out. I was told I’d never walk again, and if I did, it would take a long time. I was depressed. At physiotherapy, a little girl walked in, and she was my turning point, helping me realize I had to use my trauma to inspire others.

We’ve found 13 golden pearls. What forms a pearl, is a grain of sand that’s in an oyster. It becomes a pearl. There’s a rare golden pearl in Indonesia, and that pearl is inside each of us. 

What’s your favorite golden pearl?

Harriet: Each pearl has a parable that everyone can relate to.

My favorite is Purpose: with Covid 19, we are thinking about what we want to do. Dolly Parton says, “Everyone has a purpose.” The Japanese have a term, Ikigain. Ask yourself, “What is it that I love to do?” Second question, “What is it that I’m good at?” The third question is, “What does the world need?”, and the fourth question is, “What can I do that I can get paid for?”

Allen: My favorite pearl is enthusiasm. Listen to a great story about a carpenter named Fred. I think every one of us must bring enthusiasm to every day. Harriet calls it stinking thinking.

How can people use the 13 pearls to improve their relationships?

Harriet: The pearl of Attitude is most important. When you love yourself completely, it doesn’t matter what others think about you. Most of what we worry about never will happen. Stop worrying about what we can’t control. When you’re in a relationship, focus on what’s really important. Control your controllables. 

Allen: The pearl of Vulnerability. Allow yourself to become vulnerable. You get more love by giving. It’s a simple but very hard message to follow. It’s not what happens to you in life that matters, it’s what you do with what happens that counts. Pay love forward. The world will be so much better by giving more. 

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