When to Give Men the Benefit of the Doubt
Do you give men the benefit of the doubt? Or do you sometimes dismiss a guy for something that might not be an issue? Watch this video!
Ladies, do you usually give men the benefit of the doubt when you’re dating? Or do you sometimes dismiss a man for something that may not be an issue? In this video, I explain what I mean by ‘benefit of the doubt’, and what it means during the three key stages of dating and relationships.
What exactly is benefit of the doubt?
The Urban Dictionary defines it as, “To default to the belief that their intentions are honest, and not assume malice when there is uncertainty or doubt surrounding the circumstances.”
I believe in many cases, we should be giving men the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst. Many relationships are sabotaged because of the assumptions we make, often before we even meet!
Watch the video here:
In the video, I address when to give a man the benefit of the doubt during these three stages in dating:
- Before you meet.
- After a few dates.
- When in a relationship.
Watch the video to learn what to do in each of the following situations:
BEFORE YOU MEET
- When messaging online, and he stops texting for a few days.
- When he asks for your number, and then you don’t hear from him.
- When he sends messages about your looks, and that feels like he’s objectifying you.
AFTER A FEW DATES
- When he doesn’t message or call between dates.
- When he pushes for sex too soon.
- When he talks about himself too much on dates.
IN A RELATIONSHIP
- When he doesn’t notice when you’re sad or having a hard time.
- When he doesn’t initiate sex anymore.
- When he is busy at work or going through a crisis and pays less attention to you.
I encourage you to initially give a man the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. But, if the same thing keeps happening over and over — such as consistently talking about himself and not including you in the conversation even after you’ve set your boundaries, or being overly critical or controlling — this is a deal breaker. Leave him before becoming more involved.
Pay attention to the early signs of a man who’s inconsistent, whose words and actions don’t match. It’s a red flag when someone doesn’t follow through over and over again.
You want to be with a man who’s caring, trustworthy, honest, and reliable. If you are truly ready to go on your last first date, look for those qualities, and don’t give the benefit of the doubt to men who lack the character traits that are important to you.