Your Friends Don’t Set You Up On Dates!

Posted by in dating after divorce | 0 comments

effectively ask for set upsAbout a year ago, I found myself frustrated with the quality of men I was meeting on and offline. I can’t stand feeling stuck. I’m a big believer in the old adage that if you keep doing the same things, you’ll keep getting the same results. Set-ups can be a great way to meet your mate. But my friends weren’t setting me up. So, I decided to try something new – I sent out an email campaign to friends and family, effectively asking to be set up. I got mixed responses, but I did get set up on some wonderful dates. I hope you find this helpful if your friends don’t set you up on dates.


I hope you are well. As you may know, I have been dating for about two years since my divorce.

I have met some wonderful men and some not-so-wonderful men. I have dated men that I’ve met online and offline, through set-ups and through my own irresistible charms : ).

Lately, I have found the online dating scene to be quite frustrating. I want to get married again and get it right this time.

As a dating coach, I advise my clients to try many avenues in order to find the right guy.

So, I’ve decided to try something new. And for that, I need your help.

I am writing you because you are an important person in my life, and I believe you are connected to some awesome people. You probably know many men that I don’t know.  Do you work out at a gym? Do you take classes with smart single men? Do you work with a nice guy who might be a good fit for me?

Would you be willing to think about men between the ages of 45 and 65, who might fit the type that I’ve outlined in my online dating profile below?

I am not looking for a ‘boy meets girl because they’re the opposite sex and both single’ kind of fix-up, but one where we’re truly well-suited for each other.

I have attached my full profile from JDate, the main online dating forum I am subscribed to, with the hope that it will give you a better idea about what kinds of things are important to me. I am hoping you will forward it to the right man.

Who knows? With your help, I hope to find Mr. Right.

One more thing: If you help me find him, you will be generously rewarded. The right man is worth his weight in gold to me.

Thank you for any help you may provide in helping me find my guy.

With love,


What to do when your friends don’t set you up on dates

1. Be specific. I gave great detail in my profile about who my ideal match might be. I also planted seeds as to where my friends might be meeting these men (at work, at the gym, at a class). That way, they would be more likely to think of me when they were out and about.

2. Ask nicely. I was gracious in my request, and I offered to compensate people for their troubles. That gives an extra incentive in people’s busy lives to take the time to help you.

3. Follow up. Make sure to touch base with your friends a few weeks later. That will also help them keep you at the top of their mind. Your name will more likely come to mind when they come across their good friend Bill who got divorced last year.

Have you been set up on dates? How did it go for you? What do you think of my email set up request? Please share your comments below.

And remember, if you want to immediately turn around your online dating success, sign up here for my FREE report.




Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

AlphaOmega Captcha Classica  –  Enter Security Code

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.